Grammys 2018: Let's Give it Up for the Parents, Especially the Moms
While everyone is taking about everything they hated about last night's Grammy's (and yes, there is A LOT to be upset about), I want to point out one thing I loved: Seeing parents with their kids.
If you watched the show, you probably noticed that Beyoncé and Jay-Z brought their daughter, Blue Ivy, who cracked me up with her little "guys, hush" hand moves.
Sorry, Camila. What you were saying was super important and I think you're going to be nominated for a bunch of awards next year. Blame the camera person. They should have known better than to cut to a cute, celebrity kid when you're trying to get message across.
While Queen Bey and fam were stealing the spotlight, you may have missed that Pink also brought her daughter, Willow, to the show. DJ Khaled, who performed with Rihanna, brought his 15-month-old son as his date for the evening.
I've seen nominees bring their parents to the show before. However, I can't remember another Grammys where celebrity kids were in the spotlight, and I think that makes a few important points:
1) Celebrities are people. That's right. They're just people. Granted they're really lucky people who "made it," but they live, eat, breathe, and can have parental responsibilities like many other folks do. They're human. Seeing celebrities with their children is a reminder of that.
2) If changes are going to be made across the board in all industries, we need to teach the young that they have a voice and a place in society. I've had many conversations with women who are older than me. Many have shared that there are careers they wished they could have had, but when they were growing up, certain jobs just weren't seen as suitable for women. There are so many doors that have yet to be opened; so many proverbial ceilings that have been cracked, but not smashed. Yesterday's ceremony illustrated that in more ways than one. Yet, maybe, just maybe, if we show our young people that they can break down those doors and smash those ceilings and give them the support and resources they need to do it, by the time they're grown, the world will be a much better place.
3) Women are incredibly strong. Men should support them. No matter what your gender, we all need to lift each other. Look, we all know the saying, "Behind every man, there's a great woman." Can we change that saying? I prefer to think of it like this: "Behind every great person, there's a great person." Men have been in the spotlight for a long time. Men have been at the helm of nearly every industry for decades. Yet, even the most privileged stand on the shoulders of another. No one makes it to the top alone. The time for a male-dominated world is over. The population ratio is near equal (with there being slightly more women in the U.S. than men). It's time for women to be seen as equals from the board room to the breakfast table. Moreover, it's time for everyone to stop looking down on their neighbor and start seeing them as an equal. Whether you identify as male, female, or other, shouldn't matter. What should matter is that you're a person and, hopefully, you have a desire to positively contribute to society, spreading love and peace instead of hate and chaos. We're all in this together.
Pink and Beyoncé are two of the strongest female voices in music. Something about seeing them with their children gives me hope that kids growing up today will be shown that though they are young, they have so much power. Seeing Blue Ivy shushing her parents and Willow squirming out of her mom's lap on live TV made me laugh as much as a video of one of my nephews getting excited over wearing sunglasses. What is more heartwarming than a kid being a kid? As we age we learn about barriers, we can be taught hatred. We can also be taught to build bridges instead of walls and to radically love. I'm hoping all kids will be taught the latter.
So, while I sit in awe of Pink's stripped down, jeans and t-shirt performance last night as much as her stunning 2010 performance of "Glitter in the Air," I'm also sitting in awe of her and all the celebrities - especially the moms - who brought their kids to one of music's biggest stages last night. They give me hope that maybe, in my lifetime, more doors will be opened for women and LGBTQ, and the future will be so much brighter for the next generation.